The Theory of Relativity

"I like spring more than any other season"
"I like Italian cuisine more than Indian "
"I love reading books more than watching TV"
"I enjoy her company more than my other friends "
"Dancing is a better exercise to de-stresser than yoga "

In schools, All of us have studied that an adjective can exist in 3 forms - Positive , Comparative and Superlative degrees. There is a similarity across all sentences in the above, "Comparison of one to the other" !

Is this standard ? No, Not at all ! This is different from person to person on the basis of their likes, dislikes, needs, experiences etc.

When we compare one object to the other, there is a question that rises in our mind and that is " BY HOW MUCH"

Whenever we have  to make a choice over the other, we tend to create a matrix in our mind, build a measurement scale, define our own metrics/parameters, and then fit contents in the matrix. That's how we always answer to the question of " BY HOW MUCH"

The Special Theory of Relativity says
a. Laws of physics are same for all observers in uniform motion RELATIVE to one another
b. Speed of light  in the vacuum is same for all observers regardless of their relative motion

One of the most common example used to explain the theory is of a moving train.

If you are on a moving train, and you throw a ball in the direction in which train is moving , say at a speed of 5 ft/sec, so as per you, the ball is traveling 5 ft in a second. If the train is moving at 10 ft/sec, the person standing on the platform will observe the ball is moving at 15 ft/sec ( 5+10) . But both of us are correct, in our own frame of reference

Similarly, every person is correct is making his inferences as per his frame of reference

Theory of "Ancient " Relativity 

Einstein's theory of relativity is also captured in our ancient indian scripture Mahabharata

In golden age, there was a brave king Kakudmi, who had a beautiful daughter "Revati". For many years, King Kukudmi was not able to find a suitable groom on entire earth for her daughter. Therefore, he decided to travel to Brahmalok to take help of Lord Brahma. When he explained his problem to Lord Brahma, Brahma smiled and said, " Time runs different on different planes of existence. A minute on my planet is equivalent to years on your planet i.e. earth . It has been so much yugas that nobody on earth know about you or your family. When you will reach earth, you will be in Dwapar yug, so you can marry your daughter to Balaram, the avatar of Sheshnath".
It is well explained in the video link shared here :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=KHIvUgm-KP8

Once Brahma himself was fooled when he didn't believe that Lord Krishna was incarnation of Lord Vishnu. He stole all cows and friends of little Krishna, as it was a fraction of second on Brahmalok and years on earth, Krishna created duplicate copies of Cows and friends on earth. Then Brahma realised that Krishna is none other than the avatar of Lord Vishnu

Theory of "Emotional " Relativity 

Every experienced emotion is relative to the person's past experience of events, each of which in turn recalls an emotion relative to the events preceding it. Every event is encoded in the individual's emotional memory box.

It says, those people who have faced more challenging experiences in the past , are better prepared in the future than those people who had an happy go life in the past. Probability of having an higher EQ is higher for the person who has experienced challenges in past

Never two people can feel same experience from one event, it is relative on the basis of past events, patterns, etc

When two kids of same age, are playing on a roller coaster, the level of amusement will be different for both of them

Similarly, level of Satisfaction, Ethics and Values , Success and all emotions are relatively different for different people.  Process of reciprocation against every activity is different for different people on the basis of the matrix they are creating in their mind

For e.g, there are 2 friends doing a car race. They stop at a red signal. One 8 year old dark pale boy  slightly knocks at the window for alms . Both friends have different reaction to this event
1. Give him money so that he will be able to help his family
2. Let's not give him money, rather  help him in getting admission to a school so that he can study and work to support his family

There can be many other reactions also to this event

A person working under the sun daily is relatively less sensitive to heat and rain then the ones working under closed doors

Theory of "Market" Relativity 

Fear and greed are the two powerful emotions that have been part of financial markets for decades.
Behavioral finance says how emotions affect financial markets, has gained a lot of credibility in last few years, as market participants have gradually realized the importance of emotional theory in the stock market .
People do make decisions on the basis of rules of thumb, stereotypes, mis-pricing as well as non rational decision making

"Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted." 
- Albert Einstein

Relativity is everywhere ! Part of our daily events, each and every individual witness this in a different way at the different place. That's how we answer to " BY HOW MUCH"

Reflections....

Most of the people in the morning before going out for work, look in the mirror, check how well they have dressed by analysing their mirror image.That moment, we all have different set of questions, such as:

How am I looking?

Are these clothes suit me ?

Is it a time to change my wardrobe ?

Am I getting older ?

How soon have I become too old !!!

When our mirror image can create so many questions, imagine how much capable our reflections will be !!!

A very simple question that runs in my mind many times is " How do we like other people ?" , 

Do every individual has a standard evaluation sheet, and if the latter passes the criteria, he will be liked !

or

Do we just go on the looks ?

or

Do all of us have a code in mind, and if latter is able to hit the code, he will clear the test 

Suddenly, with so many secondary questions in mind, I had started analyzing people, and their behavior of liking and un liking others.All the options stated above are partially correct & incorrect.

Do we really try to find our reflections in others?

Lets have an age wise brief analysis :

Age : 0-4 years:

Likeness is usually for the person who is close , supportive, who offer our favorite gifts and the ones who make us laugh.

At this age, likeness is usually for same age group people, parents & relatives.

Age: 4-10 years:

This is the age when individual start developing choices and opinions.Usually, we are not fond of people who scold us or instruct us at every step. We prefer spending time with kids who like playing games, share laughter, have same kind of interests.

Age: 11-16 years:

Kids enjoy freedom,they do not like staying in bars.Here is the time, when they start becoming judgmental. They develop "Areas of interest" and then choice individuals with same interests. Definitely, if i am a football freak, i would love to be friends with other football lovers !.At this age, the tendency of likeness also differs for male and female.

Some of the factors that affect boys are freedom, favorite game, hobbies etc. while girls look more for compatibility, hobbies, affection etc.

Definitely, they can not be lured by any gifts or fantasies.

Age: 16-21 years:

Age when others consider you to behave matured and responsible. Yes, it is the time when you step into college. Interact with new same age group youngsters, have a more liking for other sex, start admiring beauty in various sense.make study groups, and nevertheless start creating a comfortable zone with those people with whom spend maximum time. 

Age: 21-30 years

Age when an individual generally becomes more reserved.He/she start liking little less number of people, and gradually become more focused on their own doings.They develop long lasting choices in terms of career, marriage and other responsibilities.

Age: 31-50 years

It is the age when individual talks to maximum number of people and like lesser number of people. They are surrounded with responsibilities, life becomes more routine and family becomes top priority. Likeness is usually for the old friends, and sometimes luckily if you find someone at workplace with whom you have a lot to talk about.

Age: 50 + years:

Life becomes a "things to do" activities. Individuals usually get cut off from friends and overburdened with responsibilities.They tend to talk about their lives to people of their same age. They no longer remain judgmental, and keen on meeting good listeners.

Considering the holistic view, everyone of us look for our reflection in others, at some or the other point and then try to connect our dots with them. It is the same thin line for all of us that connects with others.

Reflections are like our shadows that follow us everytime-everywhere.

And the life goes on.....

Life takes its own roles and shapes it accordingly. Following is the conversation between a daughter and her mom at different life phases and shows how gradually desires and demands change...

Age: six years old. 

Scene 1 :

It was the day raining so heavily.

Daughter: " Mom, It's such a nice weather :) Can you please make some pakodas, pleaseeeeeeeee !!!!"

Mom: " No dear..U are a kid, oily food will be harmful for your health... U can have hot milk and cornflakes !!! " . Sad and upset, I went to my room without having any food ::(. . 

Scene 2

Few days later, it was 6 o'clock in the evening. 

Daughter: " Mom, can I go and play with my friend Ansh ... I have completed my homework also.."

Mom: " Ok, you can go and play.. but please come before it gets darker !!! ". Smile on my face, I just ran out ......

Age: 12 years old.

Scene 3:

It was a dark night.

Daughter: " Mom, it's my friend's birthday tomorrow, shall I buy her a gift and go to her home in the evening"

Mom: "K dear..take your dad for buying you the gift and he will pick and drop you at your friend's place. "

Age:15 years old.

Scene 4 : 

 It was dinner time.

Daughter:" Mom, can you please buy me a laptop. it would help me in solving my physics numericals..."

Mom in a thoughtful situation, " Dear.. you will be staying here for just 2 more years..You can use daddy's desktop for all these purposes!!! "

Scene 5:

Daughter: " Mom, it's Shweta's birthday tomorrow. I have asked Ansh to help me in buying the gift and he will take me to her place. So please dad and you, no need to worry ... "

Mom in a speechless state, " Oh...ok dear... as u say, but please take care of yourself !!! "

Age: 17 years old.

Scene 6 :

 Now, daughter is pursuing graduation and am staying in the hostel. She went to my home for  vacations.

Daughter:" Mom, look at the skirts and clothes, i have bought for me. See those sandles, aren't they awesome."

Mom:" Ya dear , nice they are... but have you used all your dad's bank balance or is something left ??? "

Daughter:" Mom, don't worry. I have got gifts for you and dad also. I know there is no balance left...but daddy loves her daughter a lot.. :) "

Mom: " K dear... talk to your dad only then.."

Mom went away..

Scene 7 :

Again, it was my vacation time. 

Ansh came home and asked mom, " Aunt, I am taking your daughter to my home. I will take care of her and will drop her in 3 hours. "

Mom:" dear.. you could have asked me ??? "

Daughter: " Mom, i am elder now. I can take care of myself. Also, I am studying in the hostel now..."

Mom: " Ok, dear... "

Age: 21 years old.

Scene 8:

Girl has completed her graduation, and got the job. She is staying at home now, waiting for her joining.

Daughter: " Mom, I have to buy some formal clothes for office. Would you like to join me in shopping, also I need some cosmetics...I would have taken Ansh, but he won't help me in working out the shades.. "

Mom: " Ok dear..my pleasure !!! "

Mom went away..

Scene 9:

 Daughter: " Mom, don't you think we should invite Ansh and his family for dinner ??? He take so much care of me . "

Mom: " Is it dear !!! "

Daughter: " Mom, see I will leave for my job in few days, so I just want to treat him. Tell me if you are ready, or else, i will take them to some hotel"

Mom, again speechless, just nodded and one word, " ok dear..I am ready !!!! "

Age: 24 years old .

Scene 10:

Daughter  has come home for some vacations..

Mom:" dear..it is Diwali.. all our relatives and friends will be coming to celebrate at our home, I request you to either wear decent clothes like salwar suits.."

Daughter: " Oh mom, I know all these things. Hope, you will manage with seeing me in skirts and shorts..don't worry, your daughter is bold enough to answer them .."

Mom again, " Ok..dear...!!!"

Scene 11:

Daughter: " Mom, don't you think I am marriageable now ??? How about Ansh, he is a nice guy no ???

Suddenly shocked, Mom, " dear...you should consider other options also"

Daughter:  " I think you and dad should go to his place and talk to his parents as a formality. Just to inform you, he has already asked his parents and they have agreed.. "

Mom: " Ok dear... if you say so.. !!! "

See, how life changes its faces, its colors. It is the journey of generation that take it turns as time passes by. Demand changes, desires changes, opinion changes, responsibility changes and so on.....

Solitude Wins....

In the present world, everyone is so busy in running through their goals and money. Life has become so materialistic that even a small conversation takes place for some or the other reason. In this chaos, still the winner is solitude. It is the general tendency of the human being, to listen to himself, interact with others to take their viewpoints, but take the decision on its own. It resembles to the wind that decides its direction and then let others follow it ...

Solitude and loneliness are many a times used interchangeably, but there is a lot of difference between them. Loneliness is a negative term when you don't have people to talk to you, while solitude is the state when you are alone but not lonely, and you can provide yourself a wonderful company 

As stated by Paul Johannes Tillich, "Language... has created the word "loneliness" to express the pain of being alone.  And it has created the word "solitude" to express the glory of being alone. " 

There is a lot of argument on whether long term solitude is desirable for a being or not. In terms of medical and health perspective, it is known as the state of depression and loneliness, while spiritualists says, " It is the state of spiritual enlightenment ". 

When some person commits some crime, he is either sent to jail or in complete isolation, when you are kept apart from all other beings..there solitude is regarded in negative sense. But, yes... this negativity is being generated as a result of negative acts. So, lets keep this apart. 

Reading, thinking, creativity, experiencing the nature etc are some activities when you really need solitude to win yourself

For example, a temple is a place where you hear  chants and prayers, even it creates a lot of noise. It generates peace n calmness in the heart. It takes you out from all destruction and humdrum around you and you feel you are the single soul in this hush rush of different colors, different people, different worlds, different lives. 

When you stand in front of the tides in the sea, it attracts you towards it, it calls you to come and be the part of it, you will always feel that these tides are causing destruction to the world beside you, but their is immense silence and peace that is being nourished within you at that time. You will feel that you are the king of this world.

Solitude is a synonym of pleasure for some people. Some people consider it as a part of internal desire to keep themselves away from all social interactions in order to gain some kind of victory or some new invention.

Even, the psychiatrists suggests to keep some patients in isolation , in order to protect the whole environment . 

Sometimes, solitude within you becomes the winner of your whole world, because it takes you apart from the expectations you have from others, it gifts you freedom . It takes you apart from all the arguments and distractions.

It, therefore many a times provide you the way to reach your goal. It leads you towards the eternal silent world where you are away from all doubts and distractions and you will really feel the winner of your life...

Possessiveness....The truth !!!

Possessiveness : a quality of human nature that goes hand in hand throughout the life. The root "poss" mean self and means when you wish to possess something you want to make that object or the person become the part of your physical self, when it is not possible you try to do this by expressing the right on the object or the person. whenever you say " YOU ARE MINE!!!" you are exercising the same feeling of right. This feeling is not just meant for the lovers or husband -wife , but it is the part of every relation.

Possessiveness, rational or otherwise, peaks in the toddler years, often turning playtime into a pint-sized battleground. While most toddlers enjoy the company of other children their own age, they are more successful at parallel play, where they do the same activity or copy each others actions but don't necessarily directly interact. In other words, they like being near each other but not too close!. The idea of sharing toys or favorite people is difficult for kids to grasp. When a baby found his mother with some other one..or even playing or pampering some other kid. A strong feeling of possessiveness can be seen on his face and actions. He can never see his mother with some kid because he feels only he possess the right to be the part of her affection.

Look at the picture above: Don't you think it is the most lovable couple in the world.Yes, it's the couple of father-daughter.It has been noticed and proved that fathers are more inclined towards their daughters.In Indian rituals, it has been said that fathers loose the right on their daughters after their marriage. It's true but you can't erase the feeling of possessiveness that he has for his daughter. 

Again, the most pure relation in the world: mother and the son..We have seen the possessiveness from the side of the baby few minutes before.Now, lets see what the heart of the mother says!!! whenever the mother find his son appreciating some other lady, she always feel insecurity for herself.

Now move on  to the age of 6- 8 years, you can easily see the expressions of the other girl at the closeness of the other two!!! It's really genuine, just recall your childhood days when you are so many friends and one of your close friend share his lunch with some other fellow!!! didn't you feel that your friend is your possession and felt yourself ignored...i hope I am successful in taking you back to your kindergarten days...

Lets move on!!! Now the age of 18-20 years...You can be doubtful to accept your friendship as the strong one but I am sure you can't deny to accept the feeling of possessiveness that you have for your friends.Sometimes, when your friends are not able to give time to you, due to some or the other reasons, you definitely feel ignored because you consider your friend to be your possession. In the meantime, you also forget that each human being has his own personal life and boundary where no-one is allowed to enter. So, all these emotions lead to distances and separation. Sometimes, this kind of possessiveness gives rise to jealousy which is really harmful and disastrous because it ruins the relations very easily.

"U ARE MINE AND ONLY MINE!!!" this is the common statement that has been in use by all the lovers once or the other time.Most of the people are possessive on their girl friend or boy friend. This is actually because the possessive soul considers his mate more valuable, precious that he/she is afraid to lose the other one. This possessiveness makes them prevent their mate from speaking with the opposite sex. But the mate might interpret this as suspection. This leads to lot of problems in their relationships .Don't you think that you feel you are protective when you are actually showing your rights on the other person, but what the other person is feeling.Isn't he feeling suffocating??? Obviously, Yes!!! No doubts, on this.No matter, how much intense and close the relation is, but possessiveness, always results in suffocation and break ups.

See the picture above...Meerabai... the lady who was mad in love of Krishna, that she always feel Lord Krishna as her own possession.

" I like the woman who is open and friendly- as long as she is that way only with me!!!" See the image above, this kind of possessiveness shows dominance on the other half. Again , it results in some kind of disaster.

The pictures above show the suspection that rise due to possessiveness between a husband and wife. Excess of rights in any relation always leads to the end of it.Although the reasons are the same, men and women adopt different means of expressing possessiveness. Possessive men become more aggressive, resort to verbal threats, stalk their partners and may become wife batterers. Their wives sometimes perceive the man’s pathological jealousy as a sign of ‘passionate love’. The woman only wakes up to reality when the husband’s behavious cuts her off from the rest of the world.Women, on the other hand, use more subtle forms of aggression such as withdrawal of sex, hiding car keys, or soaking the man’s clothes to frustrate their movement plans.

Insecurity is a complex layer of feelings that masks either real or perceived loss. This may be loss of social position, family or resources. The loss deals a hard blow upon the individual’s self-esteem .Possessiveness is a form of defence mechanism that an individual employs to minimize the perceived harm Through it, he tries to protect the ego and maintain the right psychological equilibrium.

Some people consider possessiveness as togetherness in any relation. But, it is never true.Relationships collapse due to a possessiveness, overdrive and power struggle. Well, we can never reason out our actions in relationships, but awareness always helps in defining our perspective.Possessiveness can never be compared with love because it crushes the individuality of the other person, is selfish, it has natural insecurity and is like a jail with no freedom at all. 

People born with zodiac signs: Cancer(June 22 to July 22) and Taurus(April 21 to May 20) are considered to be highly possessive.

Cancerians has a complex inferiority problem  so that any hurt, imagined or real, is magnified. They sometimes shows a tendency to look back at, and hold on to, things in the past. This is a sign of their inner  possessiveness. 

Taureans Being traditionalists by nature, they can be overwhelmingly possessive. They may also be unwilling to provide the freedom their partner needs to allow a lasting, committed relationship.

So, possessiveness is what present in each and every relation..Sometimes, it's the complementary of affection, sometimes concern , sometimes friendship and sometimes love!!! But, at last, it results in suffering for the two souls being jailed in being possessive...

Perceptions: The Perplexity of Life!!!

The depth of the sea, the horizons of the sky

The beauty of the night, the glory of the sunshine

Reminds me of the highness of the ambitions I have

The stones near the sea, the clouds in the sky

The darkness of the night, the blindness due to sunshine

Make me think of the obstacles to overcome...

Perception is the internal mental world. These are the different perceptions that a human can have for a particular event. It can be of two types:

Internal perception:  When the human try to sense his internal feelings and likes/dislikes.

External perception:  Using the senses to relate to the external world and outside activities.

All activities of human start from the perception. It’s human nature to think on each and every thing going on in its nearby environment. He always makes the first view from the first insight. 

See the two innocent facial expressions.

What comes to your mind???

When you see a small kid running to and fro happily, you assume that the kid is happy.

When you find him staring, you feel he is in search of his mother.

When you find silence at some place, you consider it as a sacred place, or a place of mourning.

Perceptions play a very important role in our life. It describes the personality.

Lets consider few more examples :

Yudhistra's dharma has been overshadowed by krishna's dharma, certainly not in actuality, but definitely in the fragmentary perception of Mahabharata readers and interpreters.The most difficult thing in the process of perception is to make the perception process a comprehensive method of acquiring true knowledge.Our Observations and perceptions are mostly partial, one sided, biased and this defect or limitation that is imposed upon the process of perception gives us a wrong & unclear picture of the object, even if it be God himself, the supreme power of knowledge!!!

There is a common defect present in all perception. The defect is that the mind works through certain blinkers, as it were, and it can look at the object from one point of view. The object is looked upon as an object only and bereft of any other implication in its existence.

When a student is well dressed in class, pretend to be very sincere in his activities, is always blessed with the teacher’s inclination.

When light  enters the eyes,  the images that hit the retina are actually upside down, yet we perceive them as being the right way up.

Look at the picture below:

What do you think , while looking at the first time:

Two faces looking at each other or the vase.???

If you concentrate on the black areas, the two 

faces appear to stand out in front of the white!!!

Or

If you concentrate on the white area, a vase 

seems to stand out in front of the black back-ground.!!!

This is the beauty of perception when you have 

the power to move your mind in number of directions ..

You can think some more also from this picture!!!

In this picture, by concentrating on the white in the centre you can see a woman in the arms of a man,

However, if you focus on the dark grey in the centre of the picture, you can see dolphins.

So, again you see the two versions of reality.But depending on how your mind chooses to interpret that information, will ultimately determine which reality you actually see and experience!!!

We not only perceive things but relationships such as "and" and "or" as well...

Take your hands and hold them up in front of you, separated by a few inches.  You see your hands, of course, and it isn't hard to imagine that perceiving them is a matter of certain patterns of light followed by similar patterns of neural ignition.  But notice that you also perceive your hands as "next to each other," while in fact that perception is not directly presented to you as a stimulus in the way your hands themselves are.

If a baby were looking at the chess set, he or she might respond by attempting to eat the pieces.  A young child may see the pieces as little people.  A chess master may see weaknesses in her position, or traps she may develop.  It all depends on who is doing the looking...

Perception is  all how vast a human mind can visualize different objects!!!